STOP Domestic Violence: Innovative Skills, Techniques, Options, and Plans for Better Relationships

David B. Wexler

Praise for the First Edition:

"David Wexler, one of the leaders in the field of domestic violence, has written a very comprehensive and practical clinical guidebook on how to treat perpetrators of interpersonal violence. This work is an important tool for combating family violence, and will prove invaluable for practitioners."
—Donald Meichenbaum, Ph.D., Professor Emeritus, University of Waterloo, Ontario, Canada and Research Director of the Melissa Institute for Violence Prevention, Miami, Florida

"David Wexler has written the most thoroughly thought-out and developed approach to date for generating self-reflective and interpersonal skills in clients who abuse their partners. The numerous handouts, exercises, and homework will greatly benefit practitioners who treat this difficult population, and provide an immensely helpful addition to the treatment regimen for this serious problem behavior."
—Dr. Don Dutton, Department of Psychology, University of British Columbia

Overview

A revision of the highly successful Domestic Violence 2000, this comprehensive treatment program for domestic violence offenders is an all-in-one manual for therapists, social workers, and other counselors. The manual teaches group leaders how to effectively and successfully administer Wexler’s internationally-recognized program by integrating cognitive behavioral skills and a client-centered, skill-building approach that emphasizes respect for the offender himself.
 
Treatment providers will find the open-ended 26-week psychoeducational treatment model—packed with new and innovative specific skills-training exercises, handouts, and homework—easily adaptable to different settings. Its structured interventions, clear guidelines, and philosophical orientation are neatly presented in five sections: Foundations, Special Program Sessions, Group Sessions: Self-Management, Group Sessions: Relationship Skills, and Standard Forms. The accompanying workbook and the skills learned from the CD-ROM exercises are invaluable take-home resources for the group members, fully engaging the abusive male in his own education and healing process.

Contents

Program Sessions Include:

New Member Session 1: House of Abuse
New Member Session 2: Time-Out
Mid-point Sessions: Switch!
Exit/Relapse Prevention Session 1: Most Violent and/or Most Disturbing Incident
Exit/Relapse Prevention Session 2: Prevention Plan
Session 1: The Red Flags of Anger
Session 2: Self- Talk and Personal Stories
Session 3: Self-Talk and Self-Esteem
Session 4: Feelings and Real Feelings
Session 5: The Broken Mirror
Session 6: Masculinity Traps I
Session 7: Masculinity Traps II
Session 8: Jealousy and Misinterpretations
Session 9: Substance Abuse and Relationship Abuse: What's the Connection?
Session 10: Accountability
Session 11: Put-Downs from Parents
Session 12: Shame-O-Phobia
Group Session: Relationship Skills
Session 13: Assertiveness
Session 14: Expressing Feelings and Asking for Change
Session 15: Handling Criticism
Session 16: Expressing Feelings and Active Listening
Session 17: Wives and Partners Group
Session 18: The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
Session 19: The Right Track/Context of Competence
Session 20: Compliments: Giving and Receiving
Session 21: Conflict with Respect
Session 22: Hurting the Ones You Love
Session 23: Apologies
Session 24: What's Up with Sex?
Session 25: Kids Who Witness
Session 26: Kid Strategies and Tools

Group Leader's Manual (with CD)
ISBN 10: 0-393-70514-5
ISBN 13: 978-0-393-70514-0
2006 / 208 pages / paperback with CD-ROM